A California woman goes viral for a Twitter thread that contains advice on what people should do before getting married.
Twitter users @cxkenobxkerry informed the council on July 23 and warned others to discuss topics such as children, religion, and finance before they tie the knot – and also evaluate sexual tolerance.
The marriage checklist was certainly well received on the social media platform, where over 220,000 people liked their thread and 61,000 retweeted it.
Viral: Twitter user @cxkenobxkerry goes viral for a Twitter thread that contains advice on what people should do before getting married
Suggestions: She shared the advice on July 23, and it was certainly well received on the social media platform where over 220,000 people liked it
Discussions: She told people to discuss debts, determine how many children they wanted, and get sexually transmitted diseases examined
The list of Twitter users contains 20 points that users should discuss and rate carefully before saying "I'm doing" to ensure compatibility.
She said that people should get married before talking about debt, savings, and finance to determine how they split bills, whether they have debt, salaries, expenses, future financial expectations, and whether they intend to take in their parents if they are getting old.
Couples should also "COMPLETELY and readily commit to each other," she said.
"No" I'm not sure "and" What if "and" It's not the right time. "you are either in or you are outside. & # 39;
"Love is not what keeps relationships going," she said. & # 39; An active commitment to LIEBE keeps it going despite the falls. Get the princess king happy and you will be fine. "
What the future holds: She said couples should also deal with anger management issues, make sure they are on the same page about religion, and discuss their five to ten year period
Honesty: The Twitter user also said he should make sure that he is sexually compatible and that he has to discuss finances openly
People should discuss their expectations for the future, including the number of children they want, when they want them, and whether they are interested in adoption.
& # 39; Talk about your 5-10 year career / education timeline. Can you move Willingness to move? & # 39; She continued.
Assessing the “level of religiosity” is also important and ensures that a couple shares “core CORE beliefs about life”.
"Age doesn't matter," she said. "In my experience, it's about the person and their beliefs. When you are young, make sure that the person you are with allows you to grow at your own pace and in your own way. It means respect. "
& # 39; Energy: Does it fit together? you decide. Follow your belly, ”she continued.
& # 39; Clothing: It may seem like a little problem, but little things eventually add up. Make sure your expectations match for full comfort.
Expertise? It is unclear whether the Twitter user, who appears to be in her early 20s and is from California, is married herself
Agreement: She also asked Twitter users to share details of their savings, discuss social media usage, and determine what kind of interactions with the opposite sex were okay
& # 39; Social Media: Believe it or not, people will separate about it. Some prefer privacy. Some don't. Go on the same side or you will fool each other.
It is also important to find sexual compatibility, she said, and wrote: “You have to be on the same field. Consent, willingness to try things, traumas, etc.
"I'm talking about sexually transmitted diseases," she added. & # 39; Get checked. Seek medical help / in-depth expertise. Keep these tests up to date and find ways to do it within marriage. & # 39;
Couples should also discuss their definitions of fraud and their willingness to tolerate.
"Opposing gender boundaries: Determine what's right. What's wrong? Hugs / handshakes / etc. I know it sounds like tribal and trust should be there, but you'd be surprised at the limits people have. Better knowing than not knowing, ”she said.
If you say so: she didn't mention education, family or tribal background, ethnicity or professional level because she doesn't think any of it matters in the long run. & # 39;
It is also important to evaluate problems with anger management with a partner – and if a person has problems, are they ready to seek therapy?
Finally, she said couples should discuss their dying desires and what they want when they are paralyzed.
& # 39; Say it. Talk about it, ”she said.
She also noted that she did not mention educational level, family or tribal background, ethnicity, or professional level because, in her opinion, none of these matter in the long run. & # 39;
While the thread went viral, it has had some mixed reactions. Some commentators praised her for her insightful advice, while others disagreed with her on several points.