A counseling psychologist who specializes in helping suicidal people killed herself after her husband told her he was going to get a divorce.
Dr. Pamela Reeves, of Wokingham, Berkshire, specialized in helping people struggling with mental health issues that made them likely to harm themselves. An investigation into her death was heard today.
However, the 42-year-old doctor hanged herself after her husband Matthew Reeves, a police superintendent, told her that their relationship might have ended and left the marital home on July 26, the coroner said.
The next morning, during a meeting with Dr. Reeves' colleagues from a specialized mental health team known as PICT in Reading are concerned that Dr. Reeves, known as & # 39; Pam & # 39 ;, was missing.
Another clinical psychologist, Dr. Anna Norris, told the investigation how she had volunteered to see Dr. Reeves going home to check on her colleague.
In a statement to the Reading hearing, which she also attended in person, Dr. Norris: “Pam's mother was to move in, and the plan was to build an outbuilding.
Dr. Pamela Reeves, 42, of Wokingham, Berkshire, who worked for a specialized mental health team, hanged herself after her husband told her he was going to get a divorce, according to Reading Coroner's Office
After all, Matt had told Pam that he didn't want her mother to move in. Pam told her mother this and she was unhappy. Her mother hadn't spoken to her about it. & # 39;
A court heard that one of the other members of the team, Dr. Norris had said, “I hope she doesn't kill me for sharing this, but Matt told her he was going to get a divorce yesterday afternoon.
She was very calm and sensible when I spoke to her. She said she would take a nytol and go to sleep, but I haven't heard from since. I am seriously concerned. & # 39;
Dr. Norris said she had the kitchen door to Dr. Found Reeves & # 39; house open and discovered piles of rope in the kitchen along with paperwork on the arm of a chair.
The investigation found that Dr. Norris could enter the bedroom through a bedroom window and Dr. Found Reeves hanged.
Ambulance crews were present and told Dr. Reeves at the scene for dead when police cordoned off the area and conducted a crime scene investigation that resulted in the confiscation of two cell phones.
Superintendent Matthew Reeves said in a statement to the coroner that the day after his wife's body was discovered, he found out that she was searching the internet for suicide methods.
Mr Reeves & # 39; who participated in the investigation said in his statement: & # 39; After talking to us in the past, Pam didn't think people should be ashamed of suicide. We talked about it a lot because of my work in the police force.
"She worked closely with clinicians who trained patients at high risk of suicide."
The police chief related how he and Mrs. Reeves, originally from South Africa, met one night while she was working as an analyst for the Hampshire Constabulary.
They got married six months later in 2003 and planned to build their "forever home" until disagreement built over the plans, Reeves said.
He said, “In January this year we should sign a blueprint. I decided that I was not happy with the plan, I was not happy with her mother who came to us and lived with us, including a retirement home for her mother.
Pam also looked at her mother's financial side, who was from South Africa. It quickly became clear that Pam had to help her mother financially.
Pam wasn't too happy about this because there had been a rift between them for the past five months.
“We tried to find a mediator in South Africa so that they could speak correctly again. When I spoke to her mother in the following days, she mentioned that Pam had told her I wanted to get a divorce. & # 39;
The couple had put their house on the market and wanted to move. Ms. Reeves was described as "really happy" about a new house she had seen, but Mr. Reeves decided to reveal his feelings about the relationship.
He said, “I felt like I had to say something. I couldn't go on to the next chapter. On July 26th, I told Pam I thought we had to go our separate ways.
We woke up and had a lazy morning. In the late afternoon, around 3:30 p.m., we sat on the three-seater sofa. The conversation was very calm, I always struggled to talk about my feelings, but I knew that I needed it now. I said I wanted to go and Pam said it was unfair.
"I knew I had to leave the house to think about everything and if I stayed I couldn't think properly."
The couple had agreed to consider relationship counseling, but Mr Reeves had left to stay with his mother and pack a bag of his work clothes and a few other items, the investigation heard.
After telling himself they loved each other, Mr Reeves left and the next time he contacted his wife, the coroner was notified of a WhatsApp message that was not read.
Katy Thorne QC, the assistant medical examiner in Berkshire, said a toxicology test found Ms. Reeves consumed a small amount of alcohol and some niytol, with an autopsy finding a cause of death as a choking hazard from hanging.
Concluding the investigation, Ms. Thorne said: “Ms. Reeves lived with her husband in Wokingham. She had had some personal issues lately regarding her relationship with her mother and husband.
On Sunday evening, July 26th, Mr. Reeves left the marriage home to separate in court. Ms. Reeves was last approached by a friend that night and did not attend a work meeting the following day.
“I am pleased that she took her own life. I am pleased that she was going to do this, had significant personal problems and searched the internet for suicide methods and probably knew that no one would come into the house for some time. & # 39;
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