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Single mother, 34, reveals she has a polyamorous relationship with her married lover and his wife


A single mother who dated a married man who claimed to be separated has revealed how she fell in love with him – and his wife.

Monica Sandoval, 34, has been in a polyamorous relationship with Gilbert, 35, both from New York, and Giselle Gomez, 30, for five years now, and the threesome lives happily with their five children – Jayvon, 14, Anna, 13, Jacob , 12, Max, six and Leon, four – in Connecticut.

The trio take turns sleeping together and both women have separate bedrooms so Gilbert can choose where he wants. And they claim the bizarre situation is the secret to long-lasting happiness.

"Everyone asks about sex and yes, we have a lot of sex, but we don't count," Monica said in her first exclusive interview. “We have threesomes and individual sex and Giselle and I have our own rooms and Gilbert sleeps where he wants.

Monica Sandoval, 34, who dated married Gilbert Gomez, 35, from New York who claimed to be separated, has revealed how she fell in love with him – and his wife Giselle Gomez, 30. Pictured, Gilbert Gomez with wife Giselle (left) and lover Monica (right)

Monica has been in a polyamorous relationship with Gilbert and Giselle Gomez for five years, and the threesome live happily with their five children. In the picture Gilbert with wife Giselle (right) and lover Monica Sandoval (left)

Monica has been in a polyamorous relationship with Gilbert and Giselle Gomez for five years, and the threesome live happily with their five children. In the picture Gilbert with wife Giselle (right) and lover Monica Sandoval (left)

Gilbert and Giselle Gomez with lover Monica Sandoval and their children - Jay, 14, Anna, 13, Jacob 12, Max, six and Leon, four

Gilbert and Giselle Gomez with lover Monica Sandoval and their children – Jay, 14, Anna, 13, Jacob 12, Max, six and Leon, four

“Gilbert and Giselle have their time together and I have my time with him and then we have our nights together – that's how it works.

“Of course the guys will assume he's the happiest man in the world with two women, but it takes a lot of time, patience, commitment and dedication to be in a relationship like this. It's not perfect, but we're soul mates. & # 39;

Monica had been working shifts at Dunkin & # 39; Donuts in Manhattan, New York, to care for her daughter Anna, now 13, when she met Gilbert through a dating site.

He told her he was married but separated from his wife when he took her to a seafood restaurant on the first date.

The trio take turns sleeping together and both women have separate bedrooms so Gilbert can choose where he wants. In the picture Gilbert with wife Giselle (right) and lover Monica (left)

The trio take turns sleeping together and both women have separate bedrooms so Gilbert can choose where he wants. In the picture Gilbert with wife Giselle (right) and lover Monica (left)

The trio claims the bizarre situation is the secret to long-lasting happiness. In the picture Gilbert with his wife Giselle and lover Monica

The trio claims the bizarre situation is the secret to long-lasting happiness. In the picture Gilbert with his wife Giselle and lover Monica

Monica immediately fell in love with the caretaker, but a month later he admitted that he was still married to Giselle, the mother of his three children, including a newborn.

She was shocked but already in love with Gilbert, and eventually, in January 2015, he introduced Monica to his hairdresser Giselle, who had accepted that her husband was seeing someone new.

Later that month, Gilbert and Giselle's youngest, Max, was diagnosed with stage three liver cancer – hepatoblastoma – when he was only five months old.

Monica helped Giselle care for the baby while he was undergoing chemotherapy, but then dropped the bombshell message that she was pregnant with Gilbert's baby.

"I didn't know how to tell Giselle at first, and she was very hurt," she said. "She had a particularly difficult time, but eventually she accepted it."

Fortunately, Max recovered and is now cancer free. Giselle was there to welcome Baby Leon into the world when Monica went into labor in March 2016.

Monica had been working shifts in Dunkin & # 39; Donuts in Manhattan, New York to care for her daughter Anna, now 13, when she met Gilbert through a dating site. In the picture Gilbert Gomez with wife Giselle (right) and lover Monica (left)

Monica had been working shifts at Dunkin & # 39; Donuts in Manhattan, New York, to care for her daughter Anna, now 13, when she met Gilbert through a dating site. In the picture Gilbert Gomez with wife Giselle (right) and lover Monica (left)

Gilbert told Monica he was married but separated from his wife when he took her to a seafood restaurant on the first date. In the picture Gilbert with his wife Giselle (right) and their lover Monica Sandoval

Gilbert told Monica he was married but separated from his wife when he took her to a seafood restaurant on the first date. In the picture Gilbert with his wife Giselle (right) and their lover Monica Sandoval

Gilbert and Giselle's youngest son Max (picture) was diagnosed with liver cancer in the third stage - hepatoblastoma - when he was only five months old

Gilbert and Giselle's youngest son Max (picture) was diagnosed with liver cancer in the third stage – hepatoblastoma – when he was only five months old

Gilbert and Giselle Gomez with lover Monica Sandoval and their children - Jay, 14, Anna, 13, Jacob, 12, Max, six and Leon, four

Gilbert and Giselle Gomez with their lover Monica Sandoval and their children – Jay (14), Anna (13), Jacob (12), Max (6) and Leon (4)

Incredibly, the two women eventually became romantically involved, and the trio built a polyamorous relationship that they think is very fulfilling.

"Giselle and I were just friends at first, nothing more than that, but I was drawn to her and there were a lot of emotions," Monica explained. “We started doing sexual things together. It was my first time, but it was exciting. & # 39;

However, Monica's family, with whom she lived, disapproved and threw her out. The couple asked them to move in with them.

Gilbert and his two loyal lovers finally moved their five children to Connecticut in December 2016 to start a new life together.

Monica added, “If someone had told me as a single mom that I was honestly going to get into a poly relationship with this superfamily, I would have asked what polyamory was.

Monica immediately fell in love with Gilbert, but a month later he admitted that he was still married to Giselle, the mother of his three children and the newborn. In the picture Giselle and lover Monica

Monica immediately fell in love with Gilbert, but a month later he admitted that he was still married to Giselle, the mother of his three children and the newborn. In the picture Giselle and lover Monica

The trio moved to Connecticut with their five children - Jayvon (14), Anna (13), Jacob (12), Max (6) and Leon (4) - in December 2016 to start a new life together (picture).

The trio moved to Connecticut with their five children – Jayvon (14), Anna (13), Jacob (12), Max (6) and Leon (4) – in December 2016 to start a new life together (picture).

Monica helped Giselle take care of the baby while Max was undergoing chemotherapy - but then dropped the bombshell that she was pregnant with Gilbert's baby. In the picture Giselle (right) and lover Monica with their son Leon, now four

Monica helped Giselle take care of the baby while Max was undergoing chemotherapy – but then dropped the bombshell that she was pregnant with Gilbert's baby. In the picture Giselle (right) and lover Monica with their son Leon, now four

Monica's family, with whom she lived, disapproved and kicked her out. In the picture Gilbert and Monica

Monica's family, with whom she lived, disapproved and kicked her out. In the picture Gilbert and Monica

“I seriously doubted it would be me. My mother taught me that it is very sinful to be with the same sex or have multiple partners.

“But I couldn't be happier now and we all love each other so much. We want others to know that you're not weird and that it's okay to be in a poly relationship.

"Gilbert and Giselle are my soulmates now and I feel so loved, cared for and supported."

Gilbert and Giselle have been together for 16 years and have been married for 12 years. At first their marriage was normal, but after two years that changed when Giselle revealed that she was attracted to women.

"I told Gilbert I had an interest in women too – something I'd never told anyone before," Giselle explained. “Since then our relationship has become open and it's been great.

“We meet other people and are just at the forefront. He immediately told me about Monica and I met her a month after they started dating. We got along very well.

“But then my heart sank when I was told my youngest child Max had cancer. It was such a terrible shock.

The two women are also romantically involved. In the picture Giselle (right) and lover Monica (left)

The two women are also romantically involved. In the picture Giselle (right) and lover Monica (left)

Giselle announced that she was attracted to women two years after she married Gilbert. In the picture Gilbert with his wife Giselle and their lover Monica Sandoval

Giselle revealed that she was attracted to women two years after marrying Gilbert. In the picture Gilbert with his wife Giselle and their lover Monica Sandoval

Gilbert says he has the best of both worlds living with his wife and girlfriend, but he knew it would never have happened if he hadn't lied to Monica. In the picture Gilbert with his wife Giselle (center) and lover Monica Sandoval (left)

Gilbert says he has the best of both worlds living with his wife and girlfriend, but he knew it would never have happened if he hadn't lied to Monica. In the picture Gilbert with his wife Giselle (center) and lover Monica Sandoval (left)

“I had only met Monica once, but she came to the emergency room I was in and she sat with me while Max went through his chemotherapy sessions.

“I knew she was developing a relationship with Gilbert and it was difficult for me as I was trying to focus on my sick son. But she was very supportive from the beginning and now she is part of our family. & # 39;

Gilbert says he has the best of both worlds living with his wife and girlfriend, but he knew it would never have happened if he hadn't lied to Monica.

"If I had told Monica from the start that I was married, she wouldn't have given me the opportunity to date her," Gilbert said. “I wanted her to meet who I am and gain their trust so that she would be comfortable meeting Giselle.

“When you say, hey, I'm in a poly relationship that for some people is overwhelming. Now we are all one big happy family. & # 39;

Monica said that most people just want to know about their sex life, but she insisted that they are like most other married couples – except that there are three of them.

“We all cook together and have time with the family. We sit at the table and talk about our day and just appreciate each other, ”she said.

Gilbert and Giselle Gomez with lover Monica Sandoval and their children - Jay, 14, Anna, 13, Jacob, 12, Max, six and Leon, four

Gilbert and Giselle Gomez with lover Monica Sandoval and their children – Jay, 14, Anna, 13, Jacob, 12, Max, six and Leon, four

Gilbert and Giselle have been together for 16 years and have been married for 12 years

Gilbert and Giselle have been together for 16 years and have been married for 12 years

Monica (left) says the trio has threesomes and individual sex, and she and Giselle (right) have their own rooms while Gilbert (center) sleeps where he wants

Monica (left) says the trio has threesomes and individual sex, and she and Giselle (right) have their own rooms while Gilbert (center) sleeps where he wants

“We have daily differences of opinion like any normal family, but we are always there for each other.

“We want to set an example for our children that there is no rule that limits them to loving a person when there is so much love to give.

& # 39; There was a funny incident at a parent-teacher conference for Anna and Jacob and the teacher asked Giselle and me who the mother was.

“I explained how I am mother with Anna and Giselle mother number two and with Jacob it is the same. Immediately there was a very confused look, but generally people accept us.

“We don't want our children to feel like they are living in a fear-based culture that surrounds relationships like when we grew up. Society is no longer defined by marriage or monogamous relationships.

“We want the world to know that love has no limits. Love is love and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. & # 39;

Monica says the polyamorous relationship is "not perfect", but they are "soul mates". In the picture Giselle (right) and lover Monica (left)

Monica says the polyamorous relationship is "not perfect" but they are "soul mates". In the picture Giselle (right) and lover Monica (left)

Giselle was there to welcome Baby Leon into the world when Monica went into labor in March 2016. In the picture Giselle and lover Monica

Giselle was there to welcome baby Leon into the world when Monica went into labor in March 2016. In the picture Giselle and lover Monica

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