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Separation at Christmas: Australian singles reveal whether they prefer to be dumped before or after


Australian singles disagree on whether it is better to be dumped before or after Christmas.

Perth dating coach Louanne Ward asked the question on a Facebook group 10 days before December 11th – the most common day couples break up each year.

"As we near the end of a stressful year with so much added stress and December is statistically one of the highest months of separation, this question has crossed minds of many: should I do it now or should I wait?" Mrs. Ward wrote.

While most said "sooner rather than later" is the best course of action for anyone feeling unhappy in their relationship, some had a materialistic motive for sticking together during the holiday season: they still want gifts.

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Perth dating coach Louanne Ward (pictured) asked singles if they'd prefer to be dumped before or after Christmas, as the most popular day for breakups – December 11th – is approaching

survey

When would you prefer to be unloaded?

  • Before Christmas 21 votes
  • After Christmas 5 votes

"If you have your arguments or disappointments today, move on with the rest of your life tomorrow," replied one man.

& # 39; Don't wait! There is no "right timing," "added one woman.

Another called the wait "cowardly and unfair".

Many felt that breaking up before Christmas would save not only money but also a lot of hardship.

“If I found out he was going to do it without discussing it with me, I'd do it for him before Christmas and save money on the gift! No question, ”said a woman.

But one man joked, "Just give me the presents first."

Others argued that every relationship is different, especially when a partner is from overseas.

"It's awkward," said one woman.

“My brother (separated from his girlfriend) just before Christmas and her parents came from Austria to meet our family. Made for an uncomfortable Christmas for everyone involved. & # 39;

Another said "definitely after" the holiday season but gave no explanation for her reasoning.

The debate comes days after Ms. Ward divided the country by asking Australians if there is ever a "right way" to end a relationship, or if it will always be annoying for at least one of the parties involved cancel.

Merry Christmas to you too! December is officially the most common month to break up. December 11th is the dubious title of the most popular day on which couples can separate (archive image).

Merry Christmas to you too! December is officially the most common month to break up. December 11th is the dubious title of the most popular day on which couples can separate (archive image).

“It's never easy to break off or part with it. Is there a right way? & # 39; Ms. Ward wrote on her Facebook group: She said he said.

While some said honesty is always the best policy, a surprising number supported ghosting – the gruesome approach of cutting off all communication without explanation.

"Ghost them as the norm is just to ignore the person and then they'll get the picture," replied one man.

"(Ghosting) avoids stalking – just go away, magic," added another.

A third had a similar blunt attitude: "Never talk to them again."

The majority of the singles told Ms. Ward (pictured) that there is no "right timing" when it comes to breaking up

The majority of the singles told Ms. Ward (pictured) that there is no "right timing" when it comes to breaking up

survey

What's the best way to break up with someone?

  • face to face 194 votes
  • Over the phone 24 votes
  • By texting 12 votes
  • It depends on the relationship 148 votes

But a fourth saw the problem from both sides.

"In an ideal world, one would hope for common decency and respect – but let's face it, breakups are most of the time at a saturation point of toxicity," he said.

“My advice, once it's done, block ALL forms of contact and avoid the 1am calls that could potentially make you weak.

"If it wasn't right the first or second time, the next time will be exactly the same."

But not all agreed, and some called for common decency, citing personal separation as the only respectful way to separate.

& # 39; Respect is absolute. A personal interview is a must. Always remember to treat others how you would like to be treated, ”replied one man.

While some felt honesty was always the best policy, a surprising number supported ghosting - the gruesome approach of disrupting communication without explanation (archive image)

While some felt honesty was always the best policy, a surprising number supported ghosting – the gruesome approach of disrupting communication without explanation (archive image)

Others argued that ending the relationship over the phone or texting was the safest course of action.

"In any case, personally avoid it if you think there is a risk that the other person will become violent towards you," said one woman.

Some felt that the face-to-face dilemma over the phone should be determined by the length of the relationship.

"Say you don't want to see her again, maybe by phone or in person, depending on when you were together," said one woman.

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