In a new book, a mother gives a refreshingly honest look at life as a young mother – from cracked nipples to accidents with dirty clothes.
Rebecca Oxtoby, 29, of Warrington, Cheshire, wrote Mum & # 39; s the Word after the birth of daughter Isabelle 11 months ago and published the book herself on Amazon, where it has become a bestseller.
In an interview with FEMAIL, Rebecca, a highly specialized language and language specialist, said that she wanted to take a more realistic look at motherhood than the one that women of "perfect" mumfluencers show on Instagram.
The book tells of fun moments that will appeal to mothers everywhere, including the time when Rebecca "milked" her own breasts in the restrooms of a restaurant.
After Rebecca Oxtoby, 29, of Warrington (pictured together) gave birth to her daughter Isabelle (11 months), she wrote her book Mum & # 39; s the Word and published it herself on Amazon, where it quickly became a bestseller
The mother of a child (pictured with her daughter) tells of the pain during breastfeeding and how she had to deal with spontaneous milking – like in a Mexican restaurant
She writes: “After three hours of a rare day without children with the girls, I burst out of my bra like tired eyes with hulk.
The pain was severe and the bra was wet. Cue milk me in chiquitos & # 39; toilet: spray mother juice on the wall and clog the toilet with the paper that I used to clear up the mess. And who said motherhood is not glamorous? & # 39;
In a funny accident with dirty leggings, Rebecca says: “I sat down on Isabelle's head to give him moral support when he took off her pants. It was obvious that he was shocked by the amount of C *** that oozed from the "leak-free" pull-ups. "
& # 39; To further prove the point, I held out the leggings filled with S *** to showcase the mass of feces in them.
Rebecca says she learned to accept that the beautiful pictures she saw on Instagram were far from reality
"In slow motion, the contents of the leggings fell on my beautiful daughter's face with her mouth open."
Rebecca explained the motivation for the book and told FEMAIL that she had trouble getting used to her new maternal role and did not recognize herself in the beautiful snapshots of influencers on social media.
After sleepless nights breastfeeding Isabelle, Rebecca began to gather her thoughts about motherhood, which she thought was cathartic. In the picture, mom is the word
"On Instagram, people have beautifully positioned filtered photos and whenever I looked at it I thought," It's not like that, I'm full of feces, it's full of feces. "
Rebecca used the hours she had spent the night with her daughter to write the book and said she found the experience “cathartic”.
"It's amazing how much time you have when you're awake all night," she quipped.
The self-described "parenting girl" highlights all the mistakes she made – including her daughter's fall and beating her head against the roof of the car.
In each chapter of the book, Rebecca devotes a few pages to topics she experienced in the first months after Isabelle was born, from fighting her "rotting" navel to arguing with her partner, known as Daddy.
While Rebecca's words are often humorous, she also deals with more emotional issues, such as the fact that she struggled to accept her own body after changing from an "athletic" size 10 to a size 18 within a year.
The 29-year-old (pictured with her daughter) says that although it is nice to give birth and take care of a new life, she has trouble getting used to her new body
After Isabelle was born, Rebecca (pictured with her daughter), who was always an athletic size 10, had to wear a size 18 and felt depressed to herself because she did not bounce back to her normal body
She wrote: "Even Facebook jumped on the fat, shameful train and replaced my old ASOS ads with recommendations for" Chub Rub "shorts."
"I'm sure they mock me: every other message is about a celebrity bouncing back into his size 8 jeans. The only thing I came back from is the fridge. & # 39;
Rebecca also says that pregnancy and the consequences of childbirth can make women feel "dehumanized" when strangers look at their bodies and private parts – and feel like "freaks".
Rebecca is aware of the difficulties she faced in the first few months after Isabelle's birth and admits that she had to "milk" herself in the bathroom of a Chiquito restaurant. Pictured with Isabelle
She adds that it was difficult to keep her dignity intact while several doctors inspected her vagina both before and after birth – with no explanation of what they were looking for.
Rebecca remembered a case where a midwife visited her at home to check on her birth and wrote: “When she showed up, I casually mentioned that I wanted to breastfeed but had difficulty expressing myself and I was able to can't bear the pain that went with little alien sucking on my bleeding shiny raw nipples.
Within seconds my bra was off and a middle-aged woman milked me like a cow in front of Philip and Holly. My poor husband didn't know where to look. & # 39;
Despite these difficulties, Rebecca admits that being a mother and giving birth to Isabelle has led to many “wonderful moments”.
The mother of a child admits that she once threw a dirty diaper in Isabelle's face when she had one of the many mishaps in parenting (shown together).
Mum & # 39; s the Word by Rebecca Oxtoby is available on Amazon. Find out more at @bookmumstheword.
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