Speaking for the first time about the death of her son's father, Liz Hurley reveals how they healed her tear before it died.
Her relationship with millionaire film producer Steve Bing became toxic when she became pregnant with Damian, now 18. The businessman initially denied that he was the father, suggesting the actress wasn't monogamous – until a DNA test proved his paternity.
The two refused to speak for years but were reconciled before the American took his own life in June by jumping out of his 27th floor Los Angeles apartment.
Talking about the death of her son's father for the first time, Liz Hurley reveals how they healed her tear before it died. (Elizabeth wears a dress, David Koma at Matches Fashion. Image director: Ester Malloy. Stylist: Nicola Rose. Styling assistant: Lottie Franklin. Hair: Eamonn Hughes at Premier using Hair by Sam McKnight. Make-up: Kelly Cornwell at Nylon Artists using Tom Ford for Estee Lauder)
Her relationship with millionaire film producer Steve Bing became toxic when she became pregnant with Damian (also pictured), now 18. The businessman initially denied that he was the father, suggesting the actress wasn't monogamous – until a DNA test proved his paternity
The two refused to speak for years but reconciled before Mr Bing (above) took his own life in June by jumping out of his 27th floor Los Angeles apartment
It was great to reconnect, the actress tells You magazine. "We haven't been friends for a long time, but about a year and a half ago he came back into our lives."
Speaking of his death, she said, "It's very sad … just horrible. It's horrible that it happened, but it's comforting to know that we made up and there wasn't a bad feeling."
Ms. Hurley reveals that Damian got the top A-Level grades, but the coronavirus rules meant that "the misery of not graduating and not saying goodbye to your friends is just terrible".
Damian, who bears a remarkable resemblance to his 55-year-old mother, forges his own modeling career.
Ms. Hurley admits that she has reluctantly adjusted to Damian's growing independence, but says, “I torture him by making him text me and check in all the time. There's a lot of winking from its end. "
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When her 18-year-old son embarks on an independent life, actress ELIZABETH HURLEY shows the effort to step back, the pain of the tragedy that occurred that summer – and the personal motivation for her life's endeavor
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"I'm always worried about safety," says Elizabeth Hurley, thinking not of herself but of her son Damian. They locked up together, but the 18-year-old – who looks amazingly similar to his famously beautiful mother – has just signed with a top modeling agency and left her for a year of photo shoots.
“I am very concerned about safety. But no, I'm really okay with that, "she says, grimacing as if to pretend this may not be true." I torture him by getting him to text me and all of that Time to check in. There's a lot going on from its end. It's just a matter of keeping your head clear and finding your balance, isn't it? Standing back all the time. "
It's not easy when mother and son are so close together. The 55-year-old actress, model, entrepreneur, and breast cancer awareness activist has been described in the past as Damian's twin and said his personality reflected her own.
Liz is in the midst of a time of great change that is challenging for all parents. Damian turned 18 in April and has just finished school. He has two A * s and two A's in his Abitur. (Jacket, MaxMara)
"Yes, we're very close. Thank goodness, because it's really just the two of us," says Elizabeth, who after a series of high-profile relationships with Hugh Grant, the multimillionaire Steve Bing (Damian's father), the textile heir Arun Nayar and the Cricketer Shane Warne is single. "We get most of the same things. Of course he left me on the streets because he's young and knows everything, but otherwise we have the same sensitivity, which is great." it seems. Damian's resemblance to her is terrifying. "Yeah, quite alike," she agrees. "And I have some pictures of myself his age that have a lot of facial resemblances."
Today Elizabeth Hurley is dressed all in black with flashes of fire in her hair and looks pretty gothic. She looks bossy and pretty great, but also playful. A bad cold apparently made her face swell "like a guinea pig". I say it must be the most beautiful guinea pig in the world. She grins and says: "We will get along very well."
She is in the midst of a time of great change that is challenging for all parents. Damian turned 18 in April and has just finished school. He has two A * s and two A's in his Abitur. "The end result is good, but the sadness and misery of not graduating, not saying goodbye to your friends, and not marking your last year as a kid is just terrible."
Elizabeth admits that she had to work hard to get used to her little boy becoming a man. “We have to withdraw and treat them as we treat each other. Stop being so bossy and callous and talk about them like they're not there. It was a big process for me to learn how to stop being annoying. If we don't want them to catch our eye in the next 40 years, we have to change. "
Lockdown was spent at her £ 7million mansion in Herefordshire along with eight other family members including her mother Angela. They tended the garden, ate together every day, and threw themselves on the sofa to watch box sets and old movies. The extra time together was precious, but now mother and son have gone their separate ways.
"I'm fine," she says. “A few weeks ago he went to New York by himself because he had a job. He always flew to see me on site – he was an unaccompanied minor aged nine – so he did long-haul flights himself. I think the time is right. There will be a big difference for sure, but it's the natural order and the way of the world, so it's just the way it is. "
Isn't she worried about him given her experience in the breakneck world of modeling? "My first modeling job was when I was 29. When I got into this industry, I was an adult."
Elizabeth Hurley became the face of Estée Lauder in 1995 after making a spectacular red carpet appearance with then-boyfriend Hugh Grant at the 1994 premiere of Four Weddings And A Funeral. Her black Versace dress, held together with oversized gold safety pins, caused a stir.
This daughter of an Army major from Hampshire cast fame in the lead roles in the spy parody Austin Powers: International Man of Mystery and Bedazzled, in which she played the devil who seduced a young man for his soul. And she seems to have made her own deal with the devil – for the secret of eternal youth – as measured by the selfies she sends to her 1.7 million Instagram followers to promote her beachwear collection. Elizabeth still acts, most recently as Queen in the hit US television comedy The Royals, which makes good use of those truncated, royal tones.
We met today to talk about Estée Lauder's annual breast cancer awareness campaign. This has grossed around £ 70 million in the 25 years she has been involved – but this year there's a new urgency. The Covid crisis has made it difficult for many women to get an appointment for a mammogram. Two weeks ago, it was estimated that one million women had missed their breast screening this year as a result of a banning. "It's incredibly important to tell women to examine themselves and run to their doctor if they find something that worries them," she says. "And we don't have a cure yet. Our researchers firmly believe that when they have more money they will find a cure."
There's a poignant personal reason for her involvement in the campaign that we're about to discover, but I am also aware that this is her first interview since the tragic death of Damian's father in June. It's awkward, but I need to address it. "Oh," she says softly. & # 39; Very very sad. Someone he was very close to called me. "
Steve Bing, the heir to a real estate fortune, jumped off the balcony of his Los Angeles apartment. He had courted Elizabeth with expensive jewelry and private jet flights around the world in 2000, when she was most famous.
But when she got pregnant, things got toxic – he denied being the father and made a statement that their relationship was not exclusive. That hurts. In her own testimony, she said, “I loved Stephen tremendously in the 18 months we were together. I was absolutely loyal and loyal to him all this time as he actually assured me that he was across from me. "
A DNA test proved Bing was the father, but she turned down his offer to pay £ 100,000 a year into a trust fund, saying the relationship was never about the money for her. Were they in contact at all afterwards? "Well, no," she says firmly.
"We haven't been friends in a long time …" Her voice is really sad now. “But about a year and a half ago he came back into our lives. It's very sad. I mean, it's just awful. Terrible that it happened, but it's comforting to know that we made up and there wasn't a bad feeling. “Was it Bing approaching? "Well, it's a little tricky. Yes, he actually tried."
Her former lover wanted to band together to fight against his own father, Dr. Peter Bing, who had decided not to recognize Damian or Damian's half-sister Kira, the daughter of tennis player Lisa Bonder, as his grandchildren, as they were born from their marriage.
That would preclude them from inheriting the £ 370 million Family Trust Fund. The case went to court and a judge ruled in favor of the grandchildren, despite Dr. Bing appeals. "None of this is really my story because it has everything to do with Damian." All I can say is that it was great to get back in touch with someone who … we had loved each other very much. A long time ago. & # 39;
Steve Bing, the heir to a real estate fortune, jumped off the balcony of his Los Angeles apartment. He had courted Elizabeth with expensive jewelry and private jet flights around the world in 2000, when she was most famous. (Dress, Dior)
Steve Bing is said to never have met his son, but he called Elizabeth on the day Damian turned 18 in April and wrote him a suicide note before he committed suicide. "I'm really grateful that we had the opportunity to reconnect." There were no more hard feelings. In fact, there were still many positive feelings. But it was a terrible thing. "
The disruption in communication was unusual for Elizabeth, who is extraordinarily good at being friends with her exes. When Hugh Grant turned 60 this summer, she posted a lovely clip of him in Love Actually dancing on Downing Street as the prime minister in love. The headline read, “Happy 60th Birthday to the Glorious Hugh Grant – a great addition to humanity, even though he looks like a monkey. (Heart symbol) you forever xxxx. "
The mention of his name makes her smile. "I don't see much of Hugh because he's married with kids and we're both very busy, but we're still each other's point of contact when we're trying to decide whether to take a job or read a script." There's no one we really want to read it with. "
Would they work together? "I don't think we'd be in front of the camera together." We're really getting on each other's nerves. We love each other, but we annoy each other. "
The father figure in Damian's life was her ex-husband Arun Nayar. The marriage lasted four years, but the two are in contact all the time. "Yesterday, when I was making all of my Estée Lauder Zoom calls, I went to my ex-husband's apartment because it looked better and the bandwidth is faster and stronger." Everyone had to learn zoom quickly. Is she good at it? “No, terrible. It's really hard to find a nice angle and get the right sound. People kept saying, "Can't you get higher resolution on your computer?" I said, "I have no idea. I'd rather put Vaseline on the lens!"
If Elizabeth Hurley is worried about how she looks at Zoom, what hope is there for the rest of us? But actually she's a problem just because she shows up today with this cold. “I was so sick yesterday and so sick with snot, sinuses, tearful eyes, no hair and no makeup, pretty tricky. But here we are, all snot and nasality! "
She's pretty sure it's not Covid. "I had a test. I just made a movie where we were tested left, right and in the middle. They were incredibly strict. There was a Covid officer and a nurse there every day who took everyone's temperature When someone rose to a point, they were sent home. "
Santa is back will play Kelsey Grammer as her father and John Cleese as his brother. "It's a great cast. Our last name is Christmas. It's a dad who comes home to four daughters whom he left 30 years ago."
She had a pretty companion with her everywhere. "I thought," This is just hopeless. I won't be working this year because of Covid. I might as well have a new puppy. “Then I got the film and brought the puppy to York for our shooting. “The cute little Labrador is called Shivraj. “You have to be like a maternity nurse or they connect with someone else and never really get trained. The hotel carpet was fine because I ran up and down a lot of stairs every two hours to take a bit of it! "
Now filming is over, her priority is the Estée Lauder campaign. "Evelyn Lauder (the founder's daughter-in-law) came to me in 1995 after a shoot. She said," Women all over the world are dying of breast cancer and nobody talks about it. "I knew this firsthand because I'd lost my grandmother to breast cancer the year before. She found a lump and was too embarrassed to talk about it or tell her doctor."
When her grandmother went to see the doctor, it was too late because the pain was so great. A double mastectomy couldn't save her. “I feel so bad that my grandmother and the women of her generation didn't take comfort in talking to anyone about it. If a cancer is detected early, it is 90 percent curable. There is a very good chance of survival. Nobody knew that back then. "
Campaign last year with Estee Lauder Chairman William P Lauder
Her grandmother had just died when Evelyn Lauder bought Elizabeth a mammogram for her 40th birthday. She has been every year since then. "I get nervous and uncomfortable, but it's comforting to know that you were clear the year before. So if you find something, hopefully it will be new and small."
Younger women should learn to examine themselves, she says. “We strongly believe that girls in puberty should become familiar with their own breasts. Then, by doing a monthly self-exam, they can see if anything has changed. We really need to educate our girls about this. "
So much has changed over the years that pink ribbons and buildings have been lit up for the cause, but Elizabeth continues her campaigns because this has become very personal. “A woman who interviewed me on TV took a test afterwards and she had cancer. They found a lump that was very scary. Thank god she went then.
“I had three friends under 40, all with young children who were diagnosed. One girl put on a costume corset that was tightly fastened to the chest and said, "There's something funny there."
How did all these women do? "They all survived," says Elizabeth happily, and she delivers what she knows, one of the most important lines of her life: "Early detection really saves lives."
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