Former President Barack Obama says his wife Michelle has been "more relaxed and cheerful" since they left the White House four years ago.
The 59-year-old spoke to People magazine this week while promoting his new memorial, A Promised Land, and discussed the “big exhalations” they experienced after they left office.
Obama admitted that Michelle, in particular, appeared to have lost a lot of weight, and stated that as President, she always seemed to feel an "underlying tension".
Relaxed: Former President Barack Obama says his wife Michelle has been "more relaxed and cheerful" since they left the White House four years ago
"During our time there, Michelle felt this underlying tension," Obama said. "The pressure, the stress of having to do everything right in order to be" on "at every moment"
"During our time there, Michelle felt this underlying tension," Obama said. "The pressure, the stress of having to do everything right to be" on "every moment."
In his new book he also referred to the "undercurrent of tension within her, subtle but constant".
There were nights when I lay next to Michelle in the dark thinking of those days when everything between us felt lighter, her smile was more constant, our love was less strained, and my heart suddenly contracted at the thought of these days could not return ", he wrote.
Sometimes she kept her feelings to herself so as not to burden her husband.
"There were times when I think she was frustrated or sad or angry but knew I had Afghanistan or the financial crisis to fear," he added to People, "so she put it down."
But since he stepped down, both have felt they can relax.
“It was like a big exhale right after we left the office. It took me some time to talk about how she'd felt. Once (the presidency) was over there was a chance that she would open up … but more importantly, that she would be able to take a breath and relax, ”he said.
Inside: Sometimes she kept her feelings to herself so as not to burden her husband
“It was like a big exhale right after we left the office. It took me some time to talk about how she felt, ”he said
Michelle "has been more relaxed and cheerful since we left our office," he added.
Michelle Obama talks about mental health
On an August episode of her podcast, Michelle Obama admitted she was "dealing with some form of low-quality depression" this year.
"Spiritually these are not fulfilling times," she said, noting that the depression "was not only because of the quarantine but also because of the racial conflict. She just saw this government and observed the hypocrisy day after day is disheartening."
"I don't think I'm unusual in that," she added. “But I don't want to say that part of this depression is also due to what we see in relation to the protests, the ongoing racial unrest that has plagued this country since it was born.
"I have to say that we wake up to the news, wake up to how this government reacted or not, wake up to another story where a black person or person is somehow dehumanized or injured or killed or falsely accused of something is it." exhausting.
"And it added a weight that I haven't felt in my life for a while."
But she added, "Mind is lifted" when she feels healthy and surrounds herself with good people such as family and friends.
"I can reach my family and friends even during this quarantine period," she said. "I have tried to keep finding a way to connect with the people in my life who give me joy and my friends, husband and children."
"It's the little things, little rituals (that make a difference)," she said, adding that she makes sure she stays fit.
“It just allowed us to enjoy the deep love that comes with such a long marriage. But also to be friends again. & # 39;
Michelle previously talked about mental health and the "little things" she loves when she's away from the White House.
"It opens my door and goes out, enjoys the weather and sits on my deck," she told the Today show. "It's about my girls' game and really being a mother."
As for the girls – Malia, 22, and Sasha, 19 – Barack told People that he is proud of how they turned out, despite growing up in such unusual circumstances.
“I think we made it all the way. There were great joys in the White House. There was never a time when we didn't realize what an extraordinary privilege it was to be there, ”he said.
“Most importantly, our children came out intact and are wonderful, kind, thoughtful, creative – and not legitimate – young women. That's a big sigh of relief. & # 39;
Obama also discussed the women in his life in the January issue of InStyle, where he described what makes them all "bada **".
He said that most people already know that his 28-year-old wife is an "amazing" speaker – but she's also a practice freak.
"(People) are probably less aware of what it's like to train with Michelle when she's really in her groove," he said.
& # 39; And sometimes that includes you boxing. You don't want to get in each other's way while she's working on a bag – including some kicks. There is power. "
As for the eldest daughter Malia, who is in her senior year at Harvard University, the proud father noted that she is "only swimmable".
“She's someone who likes people, enjoys life, and likes to chat. She's never bored, which is a bada ** quality that can get you in one place,” he said.
Younger daughter Sasha, a college student at the University of Michigan, is & # 39;She's completely confident about her own view of the world, and she never has been intimidated or intimidated by anyone's titles and credentials. "
"If she thinks something is wrong or right, she will say it," he said, remembering that even at four, five and six years old, she couldn't be stopped from making a decision.
Praise: In a recent episode, Obama said that his wife and two daughters "all have several Bada ** qualities" (picture 2014).
“I write in the book about how we tried to get them to try caviar when we were visiting Russia. She said, “Mnn-nnh. No sorry. That looks slimy. It's mean. I won't do it – even if I have to go without dessert. "And that part of her character has always been there," he recalled.
The former president's new book, A Promised Land sold nearly 890,000 copies in the United States and Canada in its first 24 hours, making it the best-selling presidential memorial in modern history.
Now on the shelves: his new treatise A Promised Land came out last week
Day one sales, a record for Penguin Random House, include pre-orders, e-books and audio.
"We're thrilled with day one sales," said David Drake, publisher of Penguin Random House imprint Crown.
"They reflect the widespread enthusiasm readers have for President Obama's much-anticipated and extraordinarily written book."
The only book by a former White House resident that comes close to the early pace of A Promised Land is the memoir of Obama's wife, former first lady Michelle Obama, whose becoming on day one sold 725,000 copies in North America and 10 million copies worldwide has exceeded since its release in 2018.
The becoming is still so in demand that Crown, which publishes both Obamas and reportedly paid around $ 60 million for its books, doesn't have to bring out a paperback just yet.
James Daunt, CEO of Barnes & Noble, said the superstore chain easily sold more than 50,000 copies on day one and was hoping to hit half a million in 10 days.
"So far, it's been neck to neck with Michelle Obama's book," he said.
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