A woman who earns significantly less than her husband has put aside her frustration that he expects them to split the expenses evenly.
The American posted anonymously on Reddit, explaining that her husband has a salary that is $ 100,000 above her income and is said to inherit millions, but still wants bills and luxuries to be split 50/50.
She said her husband declined her proposal to contribute 80 percent and she said 20 percent because he worked hard to achieve his financial status.
Responses to the post were divided, with many arguing that everything in marriage should be shared equally while others said that their husband should not be punished for making more.
An anonymous American woman has sparked a debate about the distribution of expenses in relationships when she reveals that her husband wants to split the bills evenly, even though he earns significantly more (file picture).
The woman let out her frustrations and wrote, “We both earn good salaries in the same industry. He's been working full-time about 10 years longer than me (graduate school) and making about $ 100,000 more than me because he's older at the company.
& # 39; We share all holidays, rent, dinners, groceries around 50/50. We spend the same amount on each other during the holidays etc. I was proud of it because he complained that he was carrying extra weight for his ex, who was doing far less than him, and I was proud that I could devote more to split expenses.
'However, recently I suggested dividing the bills by%. For example, if we combine income and it's 80 percent, it covers 80 percent of the expenses and I covers 20 percent. He said this was unfair because he had his bum blasted to keep his high salary for many years and why should he be punished for making more?
“He says he made sacrifices to save and get that level of income (even before we were together), and he doesn't think it's fair that he should contribute more than me because I made my decision to Go to graduate school and I would make more money if I didn't.
“He will inherit millions while I will inherit nothing, so I want to save more for my own financial security and peace of mind. I have decent savings (no debt) but I still think this would be fairer. He says it's all "our money" anyway. So why does it matter if it's on his account or on my account – I asked him the same thing? So, Reddit, what's fair? "
The woman said her husband's salaries were $ 100,000 more than her income and that he would inherit millions
A number of responses to the job agreed that the husband should do more to cover his expenses.
"The problem with the 50/50 approach is that you never see yourself as a family (or a team) – you are always individuals," said one.
For example, if my husband has a job offer in another city where he would make $ 50,000 more and I could only get a job there that makes $ 15,000 less, I'd like to move because it's better for the whole family is. If you were in the same situation what would you do? You'd have to split up, ”wrote one.
Another said, “You are married, it shouldn't be split percentages. Do you own the house I assume and live there as long as a married couple? Right for everyone, but that's bizarre. I would never agree to that. For context, I do more than my partner and I go to school. When we get married, we will combine our income. & # 39;
A number of replies argued that it was unfair to split bills evenly and that finances should not be kept separate in marriage
Others argued that it was unfair for the woman to pay less just because she did not earn as much as her husband.
One person wrote: “He is right, you have a choice to go to school. Keeping track of things in relationships is a fun concept for me. But what do I know then?
Another said: & # 39; 50/50 sounds like a fair breakup. Just because he does more does not entitle you to pay less. If you want your joint expenses to have less of an impact on your budget, you need to earn more. & # 39;
A third suggested a compromise, adding, “I would sit him down and tell him I don't think it's right that I have to pay as much as you without the same wages and see what compromise we could find.
“If he makes 100,000 more than you, he could probably pay a little more in bills. I wouldn't push for the whole 80 to 20 percent, but maybe 40 to 60 percent or something like that. Tell him that you are trying to secure a good savings account and that you need extra leeway to do so. «
Others argued the couple should compromise, but an 80 to 20 percent split isn't fair
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